I reached for my daughter's phone to check the time, and there it was—a Tinder alert. My heart dropped. She was fourteen. "Mom, it's not what you think," she said, her cheeks red. "I was just curious." I'm a school counselor; I've seen what happens when curiosity meets the wrong person. I didn't yell. I just sat beside her and said, "Let's talk." That moment changed everything—how I guided her, how we talked, and how we trusted each other again.
Meet the Donnelly Family Story
Guiding a teen's curiosity toward safer, open communication
Our Family's Struggle
Challenge
My daughter was exploring a world she didn't fully understand. "It's just a chat app," she said, but I knew how quickly "chat" could turn into something else. I didn't want to shame her or scare her—I wanted her to learn. But every time I brought up online safety, she shut down. I was torn between letting her grow and keeping her safe. I needed a way to protect her privacy while teaching her boundaries, without becoming the overprotective parent she'd stop listening to.
Solution
I installed FamiSafe and blocked dating and anonymous chat apps—Tinder, Whisper, and others. But what I loved most was the unlock request feature. It let her ask before using new apps, instead of hiding them. That one change shifted our dynamic. "Can I try this one?" she'd ask, showing me her screen. We'd sit together, talk about risks, and decide as a team. The fear faded, replaced by understanding. I wasn't just blocking apps—I was teaching her how to stay safe on her own.