I'm Trevor, a software engineer in Austin, Texas. One chilly February evening, I noticed my 10-year-old son Ryan giggling at his computer screen while playing Roblox. He looked... secretive. When I walked closer, he quickly minimized the chat window. "Making new friends in the game?" I asked casually. His face lit up. "Yeah, Dad! This really cool guy gave me free game coins and rare skins! He invited me to his private server!" My stomach dropped. As someone who works with code and online platforms daily, my instincts screamed that something wasn't right. That night, I couldn't sleep. I kept thinking about that chat window he'd hidden so quickly.
Meet the Ashford Family Story
Protecting innocent trust from online predators without destroying it
Our Family's Struggle
Challenge
The next day after school, I asked Ryan if I could watch him play. "Sure, Dad!" He was so innocent, so trusting. Within minutes, a private message popped up from "CoolGamer2024." "Hey buddy! Do you have a pic of yourself? Are your parents home right now?" My blood ran cold. I tried to stay calm. "Ryan, who is this person?" He shrugged. "Just my friend from the game. He's really nice!" I immediately reported the account and blocked the user. But I realized something terrifying—Ryan had no idea he was being targeted. How many other conversations had there been? What information had he already shared? I work in tech. I know how predators operate online. But I'd failed to protect my own son.
Solution
That weekend, I installed FamiSafe on Ryan's tablet and computer. I set up chat monitoring and screen activity alerts for gaming platforms. But the hardest part was explaining why. "Ryan, that person wasn't your friend. Adults who ask kids for pictures and personal information are dangerous." He looked confused. "But Dad, he was so nice to me." I pulled up news articles about online predators—age-appropriate ones—and explained how bad people pretend to be kids. His eyes went wide with fear. "Dad, I didn't know..." Now we have a rule: if anyone online asks personal questions, Ryan tells me immediately. FamiSafe sends me alerts if suspicious keywords appear in his chats. Last month, he came running to me about a "weird message." I was so proud.