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10 Things You Should Never Say to Children

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Aug 13,2018 • Filed to: Parental Controls Tips & Tricks • Proven solutions


10 Things You Should Never Say to Children

Parenting is a continuous process and requires umpteen amount of patience. No parenting method is perfect, but no parent is bad. As a parent, you constantly strive to give the best to your child. But, in this lifelong journey of juggling tasks, you might tend to falter at times. Whereas the child's mind is too young to understand the elder's trouble and a small word of yours can make a lifetime mark in his mind.

Relax, take a deep breath! It is not just your problem. Facing parental challenges is a concern of most of the parents around the globe.

To overcome it, communicate with your child as much as possible. Always try to have control over your anger and chose your words correctly. It's true that it's easier said than done. But, having self-control is not impossible more so over when it comes to the brining up of a healthy child.

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Watch out for certain words and phrases when you speak:

1."Bad boy or bad girl"

Never say to your child, "you are a bad boy/girl". Children are naive; they do not have much exposure to negativity. Please don't expose them to it by abusing them or by saying bad words. This also demeans their moral.

Instead, if you don't like any activity, explain to them. Be specific and point out to them the act which is wrong. Encourage them through positivity and let them know how 'good boy/girs' behave.

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2.Stop crying

The cries of your kid might disturb you and at times out of panic you might be tempted to say,"Don't cry".

Like adults, it's important for kids also to vent out their emotions. Don't refrain them from doing so. The child might start thinking that expressing emotions is incorrect and he might become withdrawn.

Instead be with the child when he cries. If you can't be beside him, just let him be alone for a few seconds and then ask him the reason behind his crying. Engage him into conversations and try to know the reason behind his tears.

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3."What a child he is!"

Comparisons is another big mistake parent fall prey to. Many times you might be tempted to compare your child with another, but refrain. Never say to your child, "Why can't you be like your friend?" It impacts the child's self-esteem.

Instead, encourage the kid, praise him, let him know he is good and he can be better. Boost his confidence through words like, "You are a lovely child, and I know you can do better than this."


Researches have revealed that a child from his early days hears 80% more of 'no' then 'yes'. Agreed that most of his demands are not to be fulfilled but you must refrain from saying an upright 'no'.

It corrodes the child's trust in you, and he starts assuming that he deserves nothing.

Instead, give him options and let him chose. Like "No, you cannot go out in the rains". can be replaced with "Let's go out when the rain stops, and till then we can play, colour, build blocks or dance.

5."Who taught you this?"

Whenever you observe your child involved in a new (naughty) activity, you might ponder from whom he has learnt it. But, don't ask him, "Who taught you this?" This might encourage the child to be an escapist and blame others.

Instead ask your child, "How you did it?" Let your child come with the thought process behind his actions; this will encourage him to think and ponder over his actions.

6."Don't jump/run/beat"

Once again it is about passing on negativity to your child. Don't stop him from doing an activity. It might just fill his mind with unanswered questions and also make him dependent on you for every correct decision.

Instead tell, "If you read adult topics, you might not understand the meaning right now. Why don't you try out these sites?" Involve in more of dialogues and less of monologues. Explain the results of their outcomes and help them to decide.

7."You are not supposed to know it"

Never say these words. The child might feel you are avoiding his queries and he might resort to unwanted and less reliable sources for his queries.

Instead, tell your child that you are not prepared to answer the questions. Also, make sure that his questions are not left unanswered. Do your homework and get back to your child with a relevant answer. Never let your child's trust waiver off from you.

8."Don"t be greedy"

Having a sense of possessiveness is okay. Everything is not meant to be shared or sacrificed. Constantly saying your child, "Don"t be greedy", might make them feel that they are supposed to give away everything that they.

Instead encourage your child to share, "Let your friend play with your toy for a while". This way they will know it's his toy and he has the authority to share it with his friends during the play times.

9."You are the best"

Like restricting the child is harmful, over encouragement is also erroneous. Statements like "You are the best" can make your child feel that whatever he does is correct, which cannot hold true. Instead, praise his acts and deeds and motivate him into inculcating good habit.

10."Leave me"

For your child, you are the world. Never ask him to leave you alone. He can't think of living without you. It might make him feel unwanted. Yes 'me time' is important for all of us, but with a kid in the house, you need to think of innovative ways to sneak out that 'me time' without hurting your child.

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Most kids use handsets from an early age. You simply need to install it in your and your kids mobile and ensure his safety. The app can help you in various ways:

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Is bringing up a child the biggest test of patience? Yes! It is.

It requires immense patience accompanied with practice. You read it correct, practice is required. No parent is born perfect. You need to learn and unlearn depending upon your child's nature.

Though this article talks about some basic dos and don'ts, the majority of actions will depend on your instinct. Each child is unique and needs care in a different way.

Having said that I would reiterate that good parental monitoring app is the need of the hour for every child being exposed to internet, smartphones, tablets and desktops or laptops. It is not to pry into your child's privacy but to ensure that his internet and handset usage is safe. It will give him a guarded exposure to the world. Communicate to your child about your concerns and let him feel that one app in his mobile will make him more secure in this vulnerable society.

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